Lately, it feels like love languages are popping up everywhere on social media. Whether it’s a reel saying “if he doesn’t know your love language, dump him” or someone flexing their gift-giving rizz in the comments, everyone’s suddenly obsessed with this term. But what even are love languages? And why should you care?

Don’t worry, Disha baba ka gyaan has got you covered! Let’s decode this whole “love language” thing in a way that doesn’t sound like a boring lecture from your English teacher. (No shade, ma’am, but this is way more fun.)

What Are Love Languages?

Love languages are the ways people express and receive love. 

Here are the five love languages, explained in the simplest way possible:

1. Words of Affirmation
   Compliments, appreciation, and sweet texts like “You’re the best” or “You always know how to make things better.”
2. Acts of Service
   Doing things to make someone’s life easier, like helping them with homework or making them a cup of chai without being asked.
3. Receiving Gifts
   It’s not about being materialistic—it’s the thought behind the gift! A random pack of their favorite chips can feel like a million bucks.
4. Quality Time
   Hanging out together, with no distractions. Yes, that means putting down your phone (ouch, I know).
5. Physical Touch
   Hugs, high-fives, or even casually stealing their hoodie and wrapping yourself in their vibes.

Nahi samjhe? Then think of it this way: You’re at a pizza party (because, obviously?). One person feels the love when you save them the last slice (Acts of Service), another when you say, “Bro, you always pick the best toppings!” (Words of Affirmation). Someone else lights up when you sit next to them and chat while eating (Quality Time), while another friend would prefer a high-five or a hug for organizing the party (Physical Touch). And then there’s that one friend who’s thrilled when you remember to bring them their favorite garlic bread (Receiving Gifts).

The point is, everyone has a unique way of feeling cared for, and knowing their love language is like ordering the exact toppings they love—it just hits differently!

Why Are Love Languages Important?

Well brother, love languages are important because they help you show love in a way that actually makes sense to the other person. Because if you’re not speaking their love language, your efforts might not connect.

Imagine your love language is Quality Time, and you feel loved when your friend just spends time with you. But your bestie’s love language is Words of Affirmation, where they love being complimented like, “You look so good today!” or “I’m so proud of you”. 

Now if you’re all about hanging out but not saying much, they might not feel the love as much. So when you “translate” your love language into theirs, it strengthens your connection and makes sure nothing gets lost in translation. So learn their love language (Not just yours!)

How to Make It Work IRL

Here’s how you can make people feel loved their way:

1. Ask & Observe:
   Not everyone will announce, “Hi, my love language is Physical Touch.” Notice what makes them light up. Do they seem happiest when you hang out or when you bring them snacks?
2. Mix It Up:
   Use a combo! If your crush’s love language is Receiving Gifts, don’t just buy them stuff—spend time picking something meaningful. (Hello, handmade playlists or personalized keychains!)
3. Check Your Ego:
   Just because you love getting compliments doesn’t mean your best friend needs them 24/7. Step out of your comfort zone to show love their way. It’s wholesome and makes your relationships stronger.

A Little Self-Love Reminder

Your own love language matters too! Let the people around you know what makes you feel appreciated. Whether it’s an occasional “I’m proud of you” or just someone sharing their fries, it’s okay to ask for love in the way you need.

Now go spread the love—whether it’s with words, hugs, or the last piece of pizza! Catch you later!