My best friend is ignoring me like crazy since she began a relationship. She doesn’t call me much now and also doesn’t even sit with me in the classroom. It’s as if I did something terrible! Vani, 15, Amritsar.
Sia, my girl, honestly this problem is actually a lot more common than you would think, especially at this age. Pehla pehla pyaar hai bro! I mean I’m sure it’s pretty new for her too and she’s still figuring it out.
But I understand where you are coming from too. If I quote the legendary Phoebe Buffay and say so myself, “Boyfriends and girlfriends are gonna come and go, but THIS is for life” and that’s why we stan this queen, don’t we!?
So yes, I totally understand that friends and relationships have a totally different place in one’s life but give her time to understand this too na!
Give her time
And there you have it, my very first bit of advice – time. I mean bro it’s a new relationship, and those beginnings can be a little distracting. The butterflies and wanting to spend as much time together as you can, you get it!
So just give her a little bit of time to get used to her new relationship and I’m sure she will get back to you in her own time. Patience my friend!
Communication to the rescue
And if you feel like you HAVE given her time and she is still taking you for granted, then comes my second piece of advice. Communication to the rescue! Yes, talk to her, tell her how you feel.
Maybe she hasn’t even realized she’s making you feel this way. I mean she has been your best friend for so long, it’s definitely worth a shot, haina? So just talk to her and I’m sure she’ll understand. And I’m pretty sure you’ll feel a lot better too! Bhai talking always helps.
So follow these two steps and I’m pretty sure you’ll find a solution somewhere along the way. And even if they don’t help, bro tension nahi lene ka! Just let her be for a while. I’m sure she’ll realize sooner or later. Until then, take a chill pill and concentrate on yourself. Life mein aur bhi siyaape hai, hain ke nahi!
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