Hey there! So, you got the news about your midterms, huh? Well, grab a seat and lend me your ear, because your favourite trusted adult, Disha, is here to dish out some much-needed wisdom, sprinkle a little motivation, and get you back on track.

It’s just one exam

First off, let’s tackle the big picture: failing a midterm might sting a bit, but trust me, it’s far from the end of the world. Think of it as a speed bump on the highway of your academic journey. Take a deep breath and repeat after me: “It’s just an exam, not the end of my studies or the world, for that matter.” Got it? Perfect.

Reflect and regroup

Now, let’s dive into the deep end and talk about learning from the past. Every stumble is an opportunity to grow and learn. So, take a moment to reflect on what tripped you up. Were you putting off studying? Did you struggle with certain concepts? Identify the obstacles, and then formulate a plan to conquer them in the future.

It’s okay to seek help 

Next, it’s time to level up for the upcoming exams. Roll up your sleeves, study smarter, and give it your all. And hey, don’t shy away from having a heart-to-heart with mom and dad about it. They’re your biggest cheerleaders, even if they dish out a bit of tough love.

So, things may have gone a tad off course this time around. It’s a common pitfall, nothing to beat yourself up over. Perhaps it’s worth considering some extra support, like tuition classes asking your mom/dad to teach you or joining study groups. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

And don’t forget to touch base with your teachers. Assure them that you’re committed to bouncing back and ask for their guidance. They’ll appreciate your initiative and dedication to improving.

You’ve got this!

Now, let’s talk attitude. Your mindset can make or break your success. Keep your chin up, stay positive, and give it your all. Remember, you’re capable of achieving greatness, and this setback is just a stepping stone on your path to success.

Understanding over grades

And here’s a nugget of wisdom: don’t get bogged down by the nitty-gritty details. Focus on understanding the subjects and putting forth your best effort. The grades will follow suit.

To sum it up: learn from your missteps, put in the work, seek support when needed, and maintain a positive outlook. You’ve got this, champ! Now go out there and show those exams who’s boss!

And remember, if you ever need a pep talk or some friendly advice, you know where to find me. I’ve got your back, always. Keep pushing forward, and don’t ever doubt yourself. Peace out!

#AskDisha is an advice column run by the editorial team at TeenBook India. The advice given in the columns is science-based but general in nature. Parents and adolescents should seek help from a professional or expert for specific concerns or issues.

Being a good listener 

Hello Shivi and I would like to start by saying that this situation has a major relate-moment to me. I mean I agree I’m a great listener, ekdum the top level. I used to actually not just listen but also give advice to her after listening! See main hun he itni achi! 

Hehe, but jokes apart every listener needs a listener too sometimes. And the friend I had through high school did not possess that quality sadly. I’m not blaming her, but it would have been nice to be asked how I felt for a change.

Acha, acha getting back to you, I understand how you’re feeling. Everybody needs to vent now and then and who better to vent to than friends? Bro, that’s what friends are for. And when you don’t get that, you might feel a little neglected and that’s not a good feeling. But worry not, we’re here to talk about it.

Also, don’t forget to check out this wonderful video that explains how to be a good listener! ( article below the video) 

Taste of their own medicine 

I know it sounds a bit harsh, but try being them for one day. I mean, listen to them, talk to them but pretend that you are not paying attention to what they say. Just behave like they do when you are talking to them. I know it’s a bit tough, it’s not your nature but hey, you know until they realise this feeling of being ignored and not being paid attention to, they won’t understand what you are going through.

So next time they say, hey Shivi, guess what I have some super cool stuff to share with you – just yawn and pretend to be disinterested when they are speaking. And when they ask you, why are you behaving like this – grab the moment! Ask them how they felt – neglected? And then talk. Talk about the issue.

Communication is the key! 

So the next thing you have to do is talk to them about their behaviour. I know you’ve tried but try one more time. Sit them down and let them know how you’re feeling. Tell them how they can better themselves and be cool pro max about it. We don’t want to get into a fight now, do we? Plus maybe they don’t even realise they’re talking over you. So just give them a chance and if they do make an effort, it’s worth a try my lord, trust me.

After you’ve talked to them, I strongly suggest giving it some time. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day, my friend. So just have some patience, give them time to understand what you guys talked about and you’ll know if anything changes.

And if it doesn’t, that’s just the way it is. Everyone has different good and bad qualities, and maybe listening is not particularly a good one for them. And I’m sure you can talk to your other friends. And if not, I’m always here mere dost. Come talk to me on our Instagram inbox and I will listen as long as you need me to 🙂

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