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What’s the right age to wear a bra?

Teenbook — Wed, 16 Mar 2022 12:23:51 +0000

Hey Disha, some of my friends have started wearing a bra. I was wondering, how do we know when the right time is? Tanisha, 13, Ranchi

Hey Tanisha

Wow, you are thirteen –welcome to the teenage years! Arre yaar I am telling you…these teen years are the best time of your life! I still remember mine. Aww, how I miss those days girl.

Shall I make a confession Tanisha? These teenage years are also equally confusing! I mean, we are growing up – physically, emotionally and mentally. Something changes every day! A pimple on the face, growing arms and legs, new emotions and for us girls – growing breasts!

Pata hai, I too had all the questions you are asking me now, including when to start wearing a bra! And back then, we did not have websites like TeenBook to help us!

Also, don’t forget to check out this really funny and informative video on the top signs of puberty in girls. I am sure you will like it. Read the rest of my gyan below the video!

No ‘right’ age

First things first – there is no one or proper age to start wearing a bra. It all depends on your body and the growth of your breasts. Some girls start wearing some kind of bra (crop top/sports bra/training bra) when they are about 11. Others may need to start as young as eight and some may not need one until after they are 14. So chill girl, your body will tell you!

How? So, when girls hit puberty, their breasts begin to grow. Now like I just said, this happens at different times for everyone. Some girls may feel tenderness and soreness when their breasts start to bud or grow. You may see your nipples developing and you may also begin to feel a strain on your breasts during any physical exercises such as running, jumping or playing sports.

If you can feel any of these growth signs, it may be a good time to start thinking about a bra.

Count on it

Have you heard the famous saying — “Bras are like friends, they take away your strain and give you support!” You must be thinking, now which celeb said this? Well, yours truly, Disha the great – who else! Haha.

Bras provide support to the breasts when there is a lot of motion involved, especially during sports. Wearing a bra also cuts down the pressure on the back and neck, especially when the breasts are heavier. Sometimes, the weight of the breasts also pulls the breasts down and forward putting extra pressure on your back and neck. So, wearing a bra can improve your posture and help with back pain.

No bra, no harm

If you feel that your breasts are not causing any discomfort for you, while doing any activities, and that you do not feel the need for a bra, that’s perfectly fine too. It all depends on the need and comfort of your body.

Your breasts will not become big if you do not wear one! It’s just a myth. The size of your breasts depends on your genes (jeans nahi!) and not on wearing or not wearing a bra.

Your first bra

But if you do feel the need for a bra, make sure to spend some time understanding your needs. Research! First off it is important to know your size. Wearing an incorrect size bra can be really uncomfortable. You can easily measure your size with a measuring tape at home. Follow this guide to understand how to correctly measure your size. Once you know your size, note it down and take it with you when you go shopping for a bra.

I would say, do not go alone to buy your first bra. Arre yaar, after all it’s a special occasion of sorts to celebrate the milestone – your parents or an elder sibling you trust. Make it a day to remember. Maybe convince them for an after-bra party too!

You go, girl!

I went with my mother to buy my first bra and guess what – I was so utterly conscious the whole time that I forgot to enjoy the experience! Told you na, TeenBook nahi tha to boost my confidence! But for you, main hun na! So worry not! Be confident! It’s our body and we got to do the best for it! Hain na! There is nothing to be ashamed about.

Try a lot of bras before you choose one. Arre yaar, they are going to be your best friends for life! So choose wisely!

Initially it may feel odd to wear one because you are not used to wearing a bra. So go for comfort and not looks. Buy a cotton one, without any accessories like wires or pads. It may help to start with a sports bra, which is like a crop top.

And yes, never wear a bra to sleep! Sleep se yaad aaya, it’s late! Yes, I always sleep for a minimum of eight hours, you see. I have my classes early in the morning for which I like to be freshtastic. Sayonara!

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Puberty: It’s that time!

Teenbook — Thu, 21 May 2020 07:30:58 +0000

Puberty is a time when physical and emotional changes begin to take place in the body, to begin the transition from childhood to adulthood. Aarav and Sara have some confusion too. Do you have the same questions? Let’s understand more about it.

What’s going on?

You know, over the last few days, whenever I see Rhea, I
feel so excited yet nervous! It’s been so weird that I
finally decided to ask Mira didi about it. She said it is
very natural to have a crush. Such a weird name – crush! But
I like the feeling! She also said that we are growing up, so
we will see more changes in our body and in our feelings.
This phase of our growth is called Puberty!
Really? Well, mom also gave me ‘the talk’ yesterday. She
used the same term ‘Puberty’. She mentioned we will see some
physical changes like body hair, pimples, body odour, etc.
But there’s going to be some exciting stuff too – we may
develop new feelings and attraction and fall head over heels
for someone. Ok! She didn’t really say anything about that!
Hehe!

Do check out this amazing video on Puberty and Finding Out Who You Are below and read the rest of the article below the video:

The New Word – Puberty

Puberty is a time when physical and emotional changes begin to take
place in the body, to begin the transition from childhood to adulthood.
It is a time of transition when you are not a kid and not an adult, but
somewhere in between.
These changes usually begin to appear between the ages of eight and
sixteen.
These changes affect the body in terms of shape, size, and composition,
as well as growth of our internal body systems.
It is important to accept the changes as a part of growing up and have
strategies ready to deal with them in a healthy and happy manner.

It’s the hormones dear!

So I got an email from Charu today. She is so bored at the
hostel that she is writing thrice a week! LOL! And she has
been describing in much detail the changes in her body. She
writes, ‘There is lots of hair, almost everywhere! Growing
in places they never have before. I have grown taller too.
I’m loving it! Of course, the height, not the hair! LOL!’
Did I tell you Rohan accidentally touched my hands
yesterday. I couldn’t sleep the entire night! I kept
thinking what would it be like to hug him? Uff….How will I
talk to him again? Would it be embarrassing? What’s going
on! Could it be the hormones that Ammi was talking about
yesterday?

Hormones – The Changemakers

The main changes that take place in our bodies during puberty are caused
by hormones.
Hormones are chemicals produced by our bodies to serve many functions.
Hormones cause various changes in our body – such as hair growth and
change in our voice.
The special hormones produced during puberty also prepare the body for
sex and reproduction.
The female ovaries produce hormones called estrogen and progesterone.
The estrogen helps eggs in a girl’s ovaries to start developing. The
eggs are responsible for menstruation and reproduction.
The male testicles produce the hormones called testosterone, which leads
to the production of sperms. Sperms are male sex cells, responsible for
reproduction.
Hormones also impact the way we feel leading to emotions such as
attraction.

Got it. Period!

You won’t believe what happened yesterday. I was at my
sister’s birthday party and suddenly I had this big red
blot on my dress. First, I thought I had sat on ketchup
or something. But then it struck me! I got my first
period!

I was a bit freaked out at first. But now I feel ok. Mom has
been teaching me how to use a pad as well as a menstrual
cup. I am getting the hang of it. Puberty is well and truly
here!

Also, do check out this very informative video below on female body parts:

The hair and the bear

My birthday party last night was fun! Aarav gifted me a
shaver. It’s going to come in handy! Suddenly over the
last month or so, I am growing hair like a bear!

It’s either the bear or the crow these days. My voice has
also become deeper in just a few days! Initially, I thought
that it was just a throat sore running too long, but now I
realise it’s puberty knocking!

What are the top signs of puberty in boys? Do check out this amazing video for the same:

It’s not for me!

Well, I mean. I am not so sure about all of this. I mean I
don’t feel like a girl or a boy. I never have! And I don’t
have these changes happening to me. And I am not sure I even
want them!

Puberty In Transgender Persons

The onset of puberty can be confusing for those of us who do not identify with the sex we were given at birth (also described as transgender).
For example, for a transwoman (girls who were born male but feel like girls), changes such as growth of a beard might feel uncomfortable.
Similarly, for a transman (boys who were born female but feel like boys), changes such as beginning of periods or development of breasts may cause discomfort.
Puberty may be the phase where the disconnect between how you feel and your body’s physical development may become really apparent. This feeling is known as gender dysphoria and is quite common.

It’s not a race!

You won’t believe what happened today. Aditi and I were changing clothes in the changing room after our basketball match. Guess what! Adit’s already wearing a bra and has got big and round breasts. And mine, they haven’t even started growing! What if my breasts never grow? Am I going to stay a baby? Wait, no, that can’t happen to me!

Puberty – Different For All

None of us are alike, so how can our puberty be?
Puberty happens to different people at different times.
There is no ‘correct time’ for these changes to take place.
It’s completely ok to have signs of puberty early on or later.
So, don’t worry if you are experiencing or not experiencing these changes yet.

Lean on me

So…Something weird happened last night. I was playing a game on my mobile phone and suddenly I felt like touching my penis. I mean it was a bit odd. Odd, as in, I was enjoying the feeling too! Is this weird? What if it happens again? Wish I could talk to someone about this.

Build Your Network

Puberty can bring in many changes.
Some can be exciting and great, others difficult and challenging.
But you don’t have to go through puberty alone.
It can be made easier and less stressful by focusing on your strengths and building a support network of trusted adults.
These are a group of people who care about you like your parents, teacher, an elder sibling or grandparents.
Trusted adults can guide you by providing you correct information, telling you what to do or share their own experiences.
These are the people you can reach out to when you are confused, sad or need advice.

Now I know

Now I know why I feel so excited and nervous with Rhea. It makes so much sense now. Wooooh – it’s the hormones at work! Now that I understand my feelings, I feel better. Fewer butterflies now!
Now I know about the changes that are going to happen in our body. So we can prepare for it. And when we can’t, we shouldn’t feel alone. Instead we should find a trusted adult to talk about it.

ALL ABOUT PUBERTY

Puberty begins between the ages of eight and sixteen.
It involves physical and emotional changes.
Some physical changes are different for boys and girls.
There will be times when you have intense feelings and have many questions about who you are and what you are experiencing. It’s all normal and ok.
It is something everyone goes through.
It happens at different times for different people. So, don’t worry!
Changes in our body during puberty are caused by hormones.
During puberty, the body begins to manufacture special hormones that prepare the body for sex and reproduction.
We may reach out to our support network for more information.
There should be no embarrassment about our changing bodies. After all, we are growing up!
Most importantly, the journey of growing up is fun and special as we accept the changes and deal with them. Have fun and enjoy your journey!

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