I swear, the moment you turn 16, people act like being in a relationship is part of the syllabus. So we like a classmate. Like, really like them. Suddenly, everything reminds us of them. This feeling? That’s what people call a crush. And honestly, the name fits because it can totally crush your peace of mind.

If it’s serious, we start thinking about them all the time—zoning out in class, doodling their initials in our notebooks, and just daydreaming. And if we hear a rumour from a friend that they might like us back? Nice!!

Failed a test today? Got scolded by your mom for not studying again? No big deal, our crush likes us back, and that’s all that matters.

After a while, that attraction can turn into a fling. If things go well, we hang out more, text more, and next thing you know, after one of us confesses, it becomes an official relationship.

Some of these relationships don’t last very long. And honestly? That’s okay. What we thought was true love might just be a phase. The feelings are real, no doubt about that. But what often gets missed is the idea of commitment.

But why does it fall apart so fast

Sometimes, relationships don’t last because we’re influenced by what we see—social media couples, movies, or even peer pressure. Everyone’s posting couple reels while we’re out here commenting “Me and who?” So we jump into something we’re not fully ready for, just to avoid feeling left out. Yes, the dreaded FOMO, fear of missing out.

And the moment there’s one tiny fight? Cue the sad Arijit Singh songs on Instagram stories.

Just because it didn’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t real. It might have felt like love in that moment. But in all the excitement, what we forget is what actually keeps a relationship going: commitment.

What it takes to be in a commitment

Real relationships, whether you’re a teen or an adult, need way more than just heart emojis and cute aesthetic stories. They need commitment, trust, honesty, and the ability to not block each other after every small misunderstanding.

It takes letting go of selfishness, putting our egos aside, and truly caring about the other person. We can’t just say “kuch nahi” when clearly, kuch hai. We need to talk, not just send cryptic reels or post passive-aggressive stories hoping they get the hint.

What you learn

Whether it lasts a year, a month, or just a day, every relationship teaches us something. It teaches us to be emotionally stronger, to move on from what isn’t right for us, and to reflect on where we may have gone wrong too.

So the next time you find yourself crushing on someone, take a pause. Ask yourself: am I ready for a commitment, or is it just a phase? Whether it ends in a week or lasts longer, you’ll always walk away with something.

Love may not last forever, but it can shape you in ways you never expected. And if nothing else, hey, at least you’ll have some dramatic stories to tell in the future. Ever felt the same? Drop your story in the comments, we’re listening.

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Create a study plan

One of the most effective ways to prepare for exams is to create a study plan. Start by reviewing your course syllabus and exam schedule. Then, create a schedule that allocates your study time based on the topics you need to review, how much time you have until the exam, and your personal study preferences. Divide your time between subjects and topics based on your strengths and weaknesses. For example, if you are strong in math, allocate less time to it, and more time to a subject that you find challenging.

Take breaks and manage time

While it may be tempting to study for long hours, it is important to take breaks regularly to avoid burnout. Plan short breaks during your study session to relax, stretch or meditate. Additionally, make the most of your time by prioritizing the most important tasks. For example, if you have a test on Monday and a project due on Friday, prioritize studying for your test over working on your project.

Get enough sleep and exercise 

Taking care of your physical health is essential for exam success. Make sure you get enough sleep, and aim for at least 7-8 hours of sleep a night, as this can help you feel more energized and focused during your exams. Additionally, exercise regularly, even if it’s just a quick walk around your neighbourhood. Exercise can help reduce stress and anxiety, which can help you perform better in exams.

Don’t compare yourself to others

Comparing yourself to others can cause unnecessary stress and anxiety. Remember that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and we all progress at different paces. Focus on your own progress and work on improving your own abilities. Additionally, avoid comparing your exam scores with your classmates, as it can create unhealthy competition and make you feel more stressed.

Stay positive

Believing in yourself and your abilities is essential for exam success. Stay positive and remind yourself that you can achieve your goals with hard work and determination. Additionally, focus on the progress you’ve made so far and avoid dwelling on the mistakes you’ve made. If you’re struggling with a particular topic, seek help from your teachers or tutors.

Practice relaxation techniques 

Deep breathing exercises, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation through yoga are all great ways to help you manage stress and anxiety during exams. Practice these techniques daily, so you are familiar with them when a panic attack occurs. Practising them daily also builds our body’s capacity to deal with stressful situations. 

Identify the triggers 

Panic attacks are a common occurrence during exams, and it is essential to know how to manage them. If you know what triggers your panic attacks, you can prepare for them in advance. For example, if you know you get nervous during timed exams, practice taking practice tests under timed conditions to help you get comfortable with the time pressure. 

If you are scared of a particular subject such as maths, and these attacks happen only during that particular exam, then prepare for the subject way before the exam and seek external help. Do a lot of practice sheets and take many timed exams and get them checked by someone. Sleep enough and eat something before the exam day. 

Visualize a positive outcome 

Visualizing a positive outcome can help you feel more confident and less anxious during exams. Close your eyes and imagine yourself successfully completing the exam, and receiving a good grade. This can help you feel more optimistic and less anxious during the exam.

Seek help 

If you are experiencing severe anxiety or panic attacks during exams, which hinder you from performing or is making you fall sick, don’t be afraid to seek help. Talk to your parents, teachers, or a mental health professional to help you develop strategies to manage your anxiety.

 Exams can be a source of stress and anxiety, but with the right strategies, you can perform well. Best of luck! 

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Blame it on hormones 

A healthy female’s ovary produces ‘female’ sex hormones (estrogen), with tiny quantities of ‘male’ sex hormones (androgen). These hormones help regulate the development of eggs in the ovaries during menstrual cycles.

However, if a person has PCOS, the ovaries produce larger than normal quantities of androgen. This hormonal balance can manifest itself in several ways. For example, it prevents the eggs from maturing fully and instead of being released during a period, it forms a cyst (cavity-type character) in the ovaries.

Is PCOD the same as PCOS?

Polycystic Ovary Disease (PCOD) is often used interchangeably with PCOS. However, they are not exactly the same thing. PCOD is a more specific condition that is characterized by the presence of cysts in the ovaries, while PCOS is a broader term that encompasses a range of symptoms caused by hormonal imbalances.

How does PCOS happen? 

Doctors and scientists are yet to determine what causes PCOS. The US National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) says there are certain environmental factors that contribute to a woman developing PCOS, and suspect that genes also play a role, but are yet to determine how and why it gets triggered.

There are several factors that can contribute to the development of PCOS, including genetics, obesity and a high-fat diet. Females with a family history of PCOS are more likely to develop the condition, as are women who are overweight or obese. A high-fat diet can also increase the risk of developing PCOS, as it can lead to insulin resistance and an increase in the levels of androgens in the body.

What are some symptoms of PCOS?

PCOS manifests itself in different ways in every woman. Symptoms can vary from infrequent, irregular, prolonged or painful menstrual cycles to excess facial and body hair.  Other signs include severe acne, male-pattern baldness, weight gain, fertility problems and even depression.

How is one treated for PCOS?

There is no cure for the disease, but there are various medications that can dampen or eliminate the symptoms of the disease.

• Lifestyle changes: Maintaining a healthy weight through a balanced diet and regular exercise is one of the most important steps. A diet that is low in fat and high in fibre can help to regulate insulin levels and reduce the risk of insulin resistance. Regular exercise can also help to maintain a healthy weight, reduce stress, and regulate hormones.
• Medicines: Certain medicines can help keep PCOS symptoms under check, including birth control pills to induce regular periods. Remember one should never self-medicate. Always consult a doctor for any medicines.
• Surgery: After a surgical procedure called laparoscopic ovarian drilling, the ovaries are treated using heat or a laser to destroy the androgen-producing tissue. Your doctor can advise you on options if this treatment is relevant to your condition.

You are not alone 

According to the University of Chicago, 5-10 percent of women worldwide are affected by the disease. The symptoms first appear around the start of menstruation – though this can be delayed by several years – and the condition lasts throughout a woman’s reproductive lifetime. It also affects women of all races and nationalities.

PCOS is a common hormonal disorder that affects many women of reproductive age. It is caused by an imbalance of hormones, specifically androgens (male hormones) and insulin. This hormonal imbalance can lead to the formation of cysts in the ovaries, which can cause infertility and a range of other health issues.

Please remember that PCOS is a lifelong condition, and it is important to manage it with a combination of lifestyle changes and medical intervention. Regular visits to the doctor and monitoring of symptoms are also essential in order to ensure that the condition is being effectively managed.

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It’s a yes!

Consent is simply – saying yes. Agreeing to whatever is about to happen, explicitly. But saying yes when you mean yes is as important as saying no when you mean no. The power and ability to say no is important to the concept of consent.

Confusion in communication can lead to a lot of crossed wires. This is part of the reason why sometimes people cannot understand that no means no. Even when it does.  Especially when it does.

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 What’s that yes for?

Ok, so you have said yes to whatever is about to happen. But do you understand, really understand, what is going to happen? Let’s say your boyfriend/girlfriend wants you to try kissing. He/She thinks it will be fun and you decide to just go along. Well, that’s not consent or at least a complete one. 

Because you don’t want to –  you don’t feel ready, but still say yes so they don’t get upset with you. Again, that’s not an act with explicit consent. 

An important aspect of consenting to something is to really understand what’s about to happen and how it will impact you. This is why a yes from a minor for sexual activity is not considered consent in a court of law. Similarly, consent given under the influence of drugs or alcohol is also not valid.

Withdraw at anytime

Now, after you understand basic consent, there’s another concept that people need to grasp – the fact that consent can be withdrawn. Consent can flip to the other side at any point during a sexual interaction: at the beginning, middle, or end. You can back out at any time if you feel uncomfortable.

For example, let’s say you have seen a guy you like. You have been out on a few dates, have a lot in common and have spent time getting to know each other. You decide that you want to do more than just talk. You plan the day, place and occasion carefully.

So great, you’re all set, but something comes up. Something as simple as you just don’t feel comfortable with it anymore.

Anytime and always

At this point in the interaction, if you want to back out, it is completely within your rights. If you don’t want to do anything physical with them, you don’t have to. In fact, you don’t even need a big reason to back out. 

If you don’t want to, that’s a good enough reason. “But you said yes earlier”, is not an argument to force/coax/convince anyone. Anyone can change their mind at any time and it is ok, however frustrating or irritating.  

Similarly, consent can also be withdrawn midway. If you are not okay with the situation anymore, whatever the reason, you can withdraw your consent. Take time however to explain the reason to your friend for a healthy relationship. 

Also, it is best to not have any assumptions about what your gf/bf doesn’t want and instead, check in with them to make sure that you both are on the same page.

Boys too can back out

For boys, if, say, she is touching you, and you don’t like how she’s doing it, you can tell her to stop at whatever point she’s gotten to.

Just because you’ve started it, doesn’t mean you have to see it through all the way to the “end”, just because you think you’ve committed to the act (boys tend to take a lot more pressure about this). 

No is an option, always

Saying no can be scary, uncomfortable, or simply very frustrating. This can lead to many people thinking they have to agree to get intimate with their partner, even when they don’t feel ready, especially to “make things worse”’. This is not true.

Saying no is everyone’s right. Yes, you heard that right. Whatever the status or nature of a relationship, you don’t have to consent to anything you don’t understand or aren’t comfortable with. It’s not always easy to say no but it is important to say it. Many forced acts can be checked with an emphatic no.

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Gentle cleaning 

When it comes to keeping your private parts clean, the inside of your vagina (for girls) and the inside of your penis (for boys) generally take care of themselves through natural cleansing processes. That’s the reason why girls get some clear or white discharge sometimes in their underwear. However, it’s essential to clean the outside regularly. 

For this, you can use mild, unscented soap or just plain water. The key here is to be gentle and avoid using harsh products. While cleanliness is crucial, remember that excessive scrubbing, especially in sensitive areas, can irritate your skin. Be gentle in your approach to avoid discomfort.

No perfume down there! 

It’s important to remember that your genitals have a unique natural scent, which is entirely normal and even plays a role in physical attraction. Much like the scent of your armpits, it’s a part of who you are. While it’s perfectly okay to clean daily and before intimate moments, steer clear of heavily scented soaps or perfumed wipes. 

Say no to special washes 

Steer clear of scented products and intimate washes like Vwash unless specifically recommended by your doctor. Your body’s natural balance is designed to keep your intimate areas healthy, and these scented products can disrupt that delicate balance. If you have concerns or experience discomfort, it’s best to consult a doctor who can provide tailored advice and solutions to ensure your intimate health remains in good shape.

Anus last 

After cleaning your genital area, it’s vital to clean your anus. Again, use mild soap and water. Washing your anus last is essential because it helps prevent the transfer of bacteria from that area to your genitals, reducing the risk of infections.

Underwear hygiene  

Changing into clean, dry underwear is a good practice, especially after physical activities that make you sweat. Sweat can create a damp environment that bacteria love, potentially leading to skin issues or infections. 

Dry underwear also helps prevent discomfort and odour. Additionally, when using the toilet, always wipe or wash from front to back to avoid spreading harmful bacteria.

Dirty underwear can harbour bacteria and cause unpleasant odours. Changing into fresh, clean underwear daily will help you feel fresh and confident. Opt for underwear made from breathable fabrics like cotton. These allow air to circulate, reducing the risk of moisture buildup and discomfort, which is especially important in hot weather or during physical activities. 

Underwear care and fit 

Pay attention to how you wash and dry your underwear. Use mild detergents, avoid fabric softeners, and wash in warm water to kill bacteria. Ensure your underwear is completely dry before wearing it again to maintain optimal hygiene. 

Wearing underwear that fits well is essential. Tight underwear can cause chafing, while overly loose ones may not provide adequate support. Finding the right fit ensures comfort and reduces the risk of skin irritation. 

Also, never share personal items like towels and underwear. These items come into direct contact with our bodies, and sharing them can lead to the transfer of bacteria, fungi, or even infections.

Checking for changes

While practising genital hygiene, take a moment to inspect for any unusual signs. If you notice strange smells, unusual discharge, bumps, or any pain, don’t ignore them. Monitor these changes for a day or two. If they don’t improve or get worse, it’s essential to see a doctor to ensure everything is healthy in your genital area.

Care during periods for girls  

During menstruation, it’s crucial to use clean and sanitary menstrual products, like pads or tampons, and change them regularly to prevent discomfort and the risk of infection. Proper disposal of used products is also important to maintain cleanliness and protect the environment. Additionally, practising good hand hygiene during menstruation helps reduce the risk of infections.

Good hand hygiene  

Maintaining good hand hygiene is vital to prevent the spread of bacteria to sensitive areas like your genital region. Your hands come into contact with various surfaces throughout the day, and they can carry bacteria that you definitely don’t want in that area. 

Therefore, before using the restroom or engaging in intimate activities, make it a habit to wash your hands thoroughly with soap and water for at least 20 seconds. It’s a quick and easy way to keep yourself feeling fresh and healthy.

Also, don’t forget: good hygiene isn’t just ‘down there.’ Your whole body’s in on it! Brush those pearly whites, shower up, and say bye-bye to sweat stink with deodorant. Keep those nails tidy; they can hide sneaky bacteria! And, whether you’re a hair hero or let it flow, a little grooming can keep you feeling fab.

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Cool down time 

After a big argument, emotions can be high and words can be hurtful. First things first, take a breather. Put on some music, write in your journal, take a walk, or just talk to yourself in the bathroom (seriously, it helps!). Letting things cool down is like hitting the reset button. Give each other space to untangle those messy emotions.

Stay calm, no grumps 

Even though you’re upset, you don’t need to give your friend/ partner the silent treatment or explode like a volcano. Tell them that you’re not ready to talk yet but that you’re working on it. This stops things from getting worse and shows that you care.

The power of apologies 

Saying sorry is like magic. When you’re ready, genuinely apologize if you messed up. If your friend says sorry first, listen and accept their effort to make things right. Then, talk about why you fought in the first place.

Sorry isn’t the whole story 

Apologies are cool, but don’t stop there. Dig deep and talk about why the fight happened. It’s like fixing a leak instead of just wiping up the water. This step might be a bit tricky, but it’s important. Don’t let those argument ghosts sneak up on you!

Make a gesture

Show your care with a cool gesture. It could be a sweet note, a surprise ice cream treat, or even a chore they’ve been bugging you about. Think about what your friend would love. Go ahead and be cheesy – it’s fun and heartfelt.

Stop texting, go meet them! 

Physical touch is powerful. So don’t just say that sorry on the phone/text but go out and meet them! Give them a little hug, or simply sit next to them. Physical closeness can make you feel better and bring you back together.

When it’s time to move on 

In situations where the fight involves something significant that goes against your values – like a friend being a bully, cheating, or lying about something crucial – it’s okay to consider moving on or breaking up. Your well-being matters most.

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Let’s talk pad 

What’s a sanitary pad, you ask? Well, it’s like a super-absorbent, comfy rectangle that nestles into your undies like a pro. Some even come with wings – not the feathered kind, mind you, but protective flaps that say, “No leaks on my watch!” Pads go by many names, like sanitary pads or sanitary napkins – basically, your period’s trusty sidekick.

In the Indian market, various types of sanitary pads cater to different preferences and needs. Here are some common types: 

• Disposable Sanitary Pads: These are widely used and available in different sizes and absorbencies. They have an adhesive backing to secure them to underwear. They also come in various lengths and widths catering to different flows of period blood. Ultra-thin pads are designed to be thin and discreet, suitable for lighter flow days while maxi pads are suitable for heavier flow days or overnight use. They also can come with and without wings. Pads with wings have side flaps that fold over the sides of underwear for added leak protection. Some pads are available without wings for those who prefer them.
•  Washable Cloth Pads: Eco-friendly options made from cloth that can be washed and reused. They come in various sizes and are suitable for those looking to reduce waste.
• Biodegradable Pads: Environmentally conscious pads made from biodegradable materials like bamboo or banana fiber. They are designed for one-time use and have a lower impact on the environment.
•  Panty liners: Very thin pads for light discharge or as backup protection with tampons or menstrual cups.

How to use the sanitary pad like a pro 

Using a disposable sanitary pad is simple and straightforward. Here’s a step-by-step guide: 

• • Prepare: Start by washing your hands thoroughly with soap and water to maintain hygiene. 
  • Unwrap the pad: Open the packaging of the disposable sanitary pad carefully. Make sure not to tear the pad itself. 
  • Position the pad: The side of the pad with the adhesive backing is the side that goes against your underwear. Peel off the paper backing from the adhesive side. 

• Secure to underwear: Position the pad in the center of your underwear where you’d like it to sit. Press down on the adhesive side to stick it firmly to your underwear. If the pad has wings (side flaps), fold them over the sides of your underwear for added protection against leaks.   
• Adjust and comfort: Once the pad is properly positioned and secured, gently press down along the entire length to ensure it’s adhered well and won’t move around.  
• Dispose properly: After wearing the pad for the recommended time (usually a few hours or when it’s saturated), remove it by gently peeling it off your underwear. Roll or fold the used pad and wrap it in the packaging or a tissue. Dispose of it in a sanitary waste bin, not in the regular trash. 
• Wash your hands: After removing and disposing of the used pad, wash your hands thoroughly again. 

• Change regularly: Remember to change your disposable sanitary pad every few hours to maintain cleanliness and avoid discomfort.

How to manage rashes and itching? 

Experiencing rashes during your period can be uncomfortable, but there are steps you can take to manage and prevent them. Here’s what you can do:

• Choose the right pad: Opt for pads that are made from breathable and hypoallergenic materials. Look for pads without synthetic fragrances or dyes, as these can potentially irritate your skin. 
• Change frequently: Change your pad regularly, ideally every 4-6 hours or when it becomes saturated. Prolonged use of a wet pad can increase the likelihood of rashes.
• Maintain hygiene: Keep your genital area clean and dry. Gently clean the area with water and a mild, fragrance-free soap. Pat the area dry using a soft, clean towel after washing.
• Avoid harsh soaps and wipes: Avoid using harsh soaps or scented wipes in your genital area, as they can disrupt the natural pH balance and lead to irritation.
• Use unscented products: Choose unscented or fragrance-free sanitary pads, soaps, and body washes to reduce the risk of irritation.
• Stay dry: If possible, wear cotton underwear, as it allows your skin to breathe and helps in keeping the area dry. Avoid tight-fitting underwear and clothing that might trap moisture.
• Apply barrier cream: Before wearing a pad, consider applying a thin layer of gentle barrier cream or petroleum jelly to your skin. This can create a protective barrier and reduce friction. 
• Avoid tight clothing: Wear loose-fitting clothing, especially during your period, to reduce friction and allow air circulation. Remember, everyone’s skin is different, so it might take some trial and error to find the best solution for your specific situation. If the rashes continue or worsen it’s advisable to consult a doctor. They can provide personalized advice and recommend suitable treatments if needed.

Oops, leakage – how to avoid period blood stains! 

Leakages in pads can occur due to incorrect pad size, inadequate absorbency, improper positioning, prolonged use, or intense physical activity. To avoid leaks, choose the right pad size and absorbency level for your flow ( like XXL, Maxi pads or pads with more width at the back). 

Ensure proper placement and adherence, change pads regularly, especially on heavier flow days, and consider using overnight pads for added protection during nighttime. Wings on pads can also help prevent leaks, as can exploring alternative menstrual products like tampons or menstrual cups for better coverage. 

Stain on school skirt 

And even if, despite all your efforts, your clothes get stained, it’s totally okay. Don’t worry, girl! It’s just a stain, and there’s no need to feel embarrassed. If you’re at school, simply turn your skirt around so the stain in the back is now in front; and use a bit of chalk to cover it up. During colder months, wrap your sweater around your waist. Alternatively, you can keep an extra pair of panties or a skirt in your school bag for such situations. And remember, if all else fails, take a deep breath and relax. Chances are, you’re more concerned about it than anyone else around you!

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With all the information that’s floating on the internet, we often absorb unverified advice that can harm us instead. Here are some ways you can verify it.

Check the source

 Who is giving that information? Is it a message or social media post with a website link? Ask yourself if the website or the media source is qualified to give you that advice. Prominent news websites publish news across themes. But if a social page with little credibility (check by a second round of googling about it), a parody website, a religious or spiritual resource, or one run by a pharmaceutical company, it should get your red flags up.

For example, a viral message circulating during the coronavirus pandemic claimed a false cure and attributed the info to BBC news. A simple google search will tell you that BBC published nothing of the sort. Type <claim>+<news website name>If the website’s name in the link doesn’t seem familiar, don’t click on it. It might direct you to a fraudulent website meant to steal your personal information. Google the website name and go to its ‘About us’ section to understand who runs it and what is its purpose.

Also, check out this really informative video – Internet has been interpreted below: ( article below video) 

Who is making the claim?

Often, a ‘forwarded’ message on WhatsApp or some post might claim seemingly impossible stuff – like a celebrity or an influencer died, or some free Robux ( currency used in a game) or Spotify membership if you download this! People like such freebies, hence get trapped into clicking those links. However, before you do so, check who is making the claim – is it only generic like “reliable sources” or does it name a particular person?
It’s not a good idea to trust this source simply. Google the named person and check whether they really are offering some free coupons. If there are not more than one or two mentions of this person online, and if you can’t find what website claimed that death, it might be a good idea to verify this news in other ways and not trust this source right away.

Did it make you go ‘wow!’ or ‘oh no!’

Hold on then. If a WhatsApp message or an Insta post makes a claim that’s too big, surprising or upsetting, (like a celeb’s death, some free coupons, free tickets to concerts etc) it should not be trusted without further checks. A major news organisation would certainly publish this information if it’s a major announcement on some ailment or a celebrity death.

Messaging style

 If the message is in ALL CAPS, contains many exclamation marks, is in multi-coloured text, has jumpy video or audio and dramatic audio-visual effects, or has poor grammar and sentence formation, it’s probably false. It probably needs a check if it’s a text quote with a person’s photo to suggest they gave that advice.

If there’s a still photo with audio of someone speaking and claiming that it’s a celebrity, some YouTuber or diet advice, it might be worth asking yourself why they are not shown saying that on video. However, one must remember that video proof is also not entirely reliable since technology enables many tricks such as a person’s lip movement could be synced to any audio. It might also be worthwhile to reverse search the shared images on Google.

If results show recent posts with the same information across several media sources, with the same person/expert or celebrity’s photo, it might at least confirm that it’s the same person who’s said it.

Fake-news-busting websites

 When you can’t verify a claim yourself and need help from an additional but reliable source, websites specialising in fact-checking, like Alt News, AFP FactCheck, AP Fact Check, BBC Reality Check and others, might be good sources to turn to.

Share it! (Don’t)

If a message stresses too much for you to share it or make it ‘viral’ then it is a reason to not trust it. A credible message speaks for itself instead of making appeals to be shared. Also, in general, develop a habit of not randomly forwarding messages, even if it feels like a helpful thing to do.

This is how most fake messages find high circulation. Most of us feel a message might help someone and share it and it keeps getting shared on and on. And suddenly a fake message is everywhere! If we can’t be sure of the message’s authenticity, it’s best to hold back. 

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What is a low mood?

A mood describes the way one is feeling at a particular time. If we feel happy, we are in a good mood. If we feel sad, angry or irritable we are in a bad or a low mood. It is normal to have a low mood from time to time. Usually, a low mood is caused by our life events such as a fight with a friend or a difficult exam or a change in our daily routines. Sometimes we may also be feeling tired, exhausted, frustrated or lacking confidence in situations that lead to a low mood. 

• A low or bad mood usually passes after a couple of hours or days. There are several things you can do to help improve your mood.
• Do something you usually enjoy to break the low mood  
• Talk to someone 
• Get good sleep 
• Play the music you love 
• A little outdoor activity 
• Challenge the negative thoughts in your mind (is what I am thinking really true?) 

Also, check out this really informative video on Depression and Anxiety below: ( article below video) 

What is depression?

Depression is the state of feeling sad over a long period of time and begins to interfere with your day-to-day activities. There are many signs of depression that distinguish it from a low mood. These include 

• Losing interest in things you used to enjoy 
• Feeling sad or anxious all the time
• Having trouble sleeping
• Feeling tired even after sleeping 
• Feelings of guilt, worthlessness and helplessness 

Depression can be caused due to a number of factors. It could be caused by:

• Hereditary reasons (having blood relatives who have depression) 
• A major life-changing event or trauma (sickness or death in the family)
• Facing a long persisting difficult situation (such as bullying or harassment)

Depression is very common and can be addressed with the help of a professional. The most important thing is to not self-diagnose and treat. But to speak to a mental health professional who will work with you on what’s causing depression for you and then work on reducing and removing it. As a teenager, your first step should be to talk to your parents, your school counsellor or another trusted adult about your feelings, who can then get you the professional help you may need.

What is anxiety?

Anxiety is a feeling of nervousness, worry, and tension over events that are about to come. Anxiety is a natural response of our body to stressful situations. For example, we may feel anxious on the day of an exam or ahead of a school presentation. 

Anxiety can caused due to a variety of factors such as: 

• Facing a situation in front of too many people (such as a presentation, known as social anxiety)
• Being worried that bad things will happen in future (general anxiety) 
• Being worried about being away from loved ones (separation anxiety) 

Some level of anxiety is good for us as it helps us cope with the situation, like an exam. This is known as healthy anxiety. Feelings of such anxiety usually pass with the passing of the event. 

But if you continue to worry over situations it could be classified as unhealthy or unhelpful anxiety. 

Again, you should talk to your parents or a trusted adult about what’s causing you anxiety and get their help in addressing the cause of anxiety. For example, if you are finding it difficult to cope with a very busy schedule, then your parents can help you reduce some of the activities or help you manage your time better. Healthy food, some regular physical activity, getting enough sleep, having set routines and talking to friends and family helps with reducing anxiety. 

But if the feelings persist for longer periods and interfere with other daily activities, this may be an anxiety disorder. In such a situation, talk to your parents or guardian who can then consult a psychologist or a counsellor who can help you manage the feelings of anxiety with the help of therapy. 

 The information in this article has been sourced from cdc.gov and nhs.uk. If you feel that you are experiencing signs of depression, reach out to a trusted adult.  Do not self-diagnose, self-treat or use Google to try out any remedies.

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Coming out

As we grow up, we may be attracted to people of different gender (boy-girl) or to people of the same gender (boy-boy and girl-girl). This is known as sexual orientation or sexuality. As we grow we may begin to explore and understand our orientation. However, it may be quite later in life that we fully understand how we feel. 

‘Coming out’, short for ‘coming out of the closet’, means telling people around you about your sexuality. One’s sexuality is a private matter and coming out can be a very brave thing to do. Many people are afraid of how others might react. There is no right or wrong way to come out. Just be a good friend and create a healthy environment for them to feel safe around you.

Here’s how you can be supportive to a friend who is coming out to you

DO’S

Listen

We understand coming out can be a big event not just for your friend, but for you as well. So, it’s difficult to stop letting your emotions take a hold of you. Yet, it’s important to listen to the smaller details and not just hold on to the big picture! Has your friend been able to come to terms with his/her sexuality, what kind of support does your friend need, etc. are things that you can figure out only by listening, and not by answering these questions by your own imagination.

Ask him/her/them if they/s/he likes someone yet

‘Being okay’ with someone’s newly revealed sexuality is, more or less, mere ‘tolerance’. So, don’t stop at the fact that your friend is attracted to people of the same sex. Try and ask him/her/them, without being forceful, about things like whom s/he/they like at school or college or among famous people. True acceptance would mean showing a positive curiosity and interest for their romantic interests, of the same kind that you display with your straight friends.

Don’t be tolerant of homophobia anymore

Homophobia is a negative attitude towards gays, lesbians, and bisexuals. It can be feelings of fear, hatred, or contempt, and is often linked to religious or cultural beliefs. Whenever people make casual, homophobic jokes like using gay as an insult or teasing someone who is LGBT in your friend circle, make sure you call them out for doing that. This will help your friend feel secure and safe about having confided in you and build a deeper bond of trust between the both of you.

It is just one aspect of life

Who you are attracted to (your sexuality)  is only one aspect of anyone’s personality. Try not to reduce the entire essence of your friend’s existence to this one, single aspect. Remember that s/he still continues to be all the other things s/he was apart from being gay.

DON’TS

Ask ‘Are you sure? When did you first realise?’

As far as clichéd questions go, this one takes the cake. Every gay person who has ever come out has heard this question once in life. Maybe s/he’s not really gay? Maybe it’s an illusion? When did it first strike him/her ‘to be’ gay anyway? But remember that it doesn’t work that way. There’s no particular moment when straight people ‘realise’ that they are straight. It works more or less in the same way for most gay people too.

Say, ‘Yay! I’ve always wanted a gay friend!’

While this is obviously a positive reaction, it’s not very flattering. It’s like saying you wanted a pet poodle and now you got one. Don’t reduce your friend’s sexuality to an entry in your bucket list.

Let it change your relationship

Even if you feel a bit different around your friend, try not to let it show on your face. This is the most important thing you can do for your friend to make him/her feel accepted and warm.

Talk about this to others unless your friend is okay

This can be exciting news but it’s important to find out if your friend is okay with you talking about this to others, including even your parents, other close friends, etc. Even though your friend may be ok with his/her sexuality, it doesn’t imply he’s okay talking about it to anyone and everyone.